My mom talks about me with her boyfriend, what should I do?
Here’s the story:
My mom met her boyfriend in 2004, but they got together in 2006. My sister and I blame ourselves, because if we never went to the library as often as we did, they would have never met. She would chat with him on AOL every night and made that her priority instead of making my sister go to bed on time. I would walk by and see something mean he would say about us and she would agree to it. I told her about it and she promised she would tell him to not say anything bad about us. Well, that never stopped. Now here’s the odd part, this guy thinks we don’t know they are together. He tells my mom to lie to us yet she talks about how much she loves him in front of us. His co-workers at the library had no clue either.
In 2008, she sold her car so she could have money to divorce my dad. This was the 3rd time divorcing him, millionth time cheating on him. My dad never said a word to her about why she goes to the library every night at 7 and comes home at 10:30 when the library closes at 9. She cheated on him so much, I guess he just didn’t care to speak up, although I know it hurt him. The 2nd time they divorced, she re-married and had the guy move into our home and made my dad continue to pay our rent even though she kicked him out and he moved in my grandma.
As soon as the divorce was final, she moved out and went to live with him and HIS WIFE. His wife was not happy about her moving in and my mom would visit us and complain about the mean looks his wife would give her and what she would say. He told my mom that they already filed for divorce, which was a lie. He made my mom live in the basement and buy and cook her own food with the leftover cash she got from selling her car. He didn’t allow her to eat desserts and she ended up losing 30 lbs when he’s the fat one. She wasn’t allowed upstairs unless he allowed it. I told her many times to come back home but she claimed she couldn’t live with my dad. She also claimed we stressed her out and never helped her. The fact is, when we would try to do the dishes, she would take over. She ran around doing things that didn’t need to be done. My dad said she’s a little crazy because of the way her mother raised her and her mother is the same way. My mom stopped spending time with us when she came over. Since we were little, my mom would talk about killing herself because something upset her. She blows everything out of proportion. She still does to this day. This had an effect on my sister. My sister wanted to drop out of school and my mom was all for it just so she didn’t have to deal with her and the school anymore. My sister was depressed and that started when my mom left. Currently, my sister is back in school, but my mom wants her to drop out again. She claims my sister’s problems are too much for her she wants to kill herself. She won’t even be there for support. My sister expressed her feelings about that and my mom turned it around to make herself in the victim.
My mom acts like her life is so bad when she doesn’t work and has been a moocher her whole life. Her boyfriend bought her a junky car and my dad always gave her gas money and paid to have it fixed whenever it broke down. I wanted to tell off her boyfriend but we were still not suppose to know about their relationship. Her boyfriend wanted us to believe my mom was a live in caregiver.
When my mom would sleep over and chat with him online, we would save her AIM logs and read all the horrible things they said about us. She would tell him untrue things and personal things about us, especially me. At this point, my mom wasn’t the same anymore. She was heartless and always complained about things that didn’t matter.
In July 2011, my mom finally moved with him to Arkansas. They had this planned since she moved in with him in 2008. She was suppose to come back to visit in August but he made her stay until the end of September on purpose to miss the birth of my baby and the first month of my son’s life. She’s going back with him in a week. My sister has been reading her chats and finding they are still talking trash yet my mom acts like everything is fine, which I’m guessing is fake. In her chat from last night, she said she doesn’t want to come back ever again to visit. I don’t understand, we never did anything so horribly bad to hurt her. She did our dishes yesterday when I told her that my dad, my sister, and I have a dishes duty schedule. She also complained the way my dad had some things in his room and she complains about the old people my dad hangs out with that live in the same apartment building. It’s his place, he can do whatever he wants.
Should I finally say something to my mom and her boyfriend? Should I wait until they leave? Should I send him an email or call her and risk getting interrupted and hung up on? I had enough of all this and I need to defend myself. I need opinions.
i’m sorry for writing so much lol, I just wanted to go into detail for better understanding. I am 24 years old.





