I have no clue what to do. We have been together for so long&our lives our basically intertwined, but our goals&future plans are completely different. Everything he wants out of life, I don’t and its hurts so much, but it just isnt going to work. He claims I don’t support his dreams, but that not it at all. He dream is to make millions doing affiliate marketing/running his own online business. It consumes all of his time&doesn’t care about anything besides his business. Its just not the kind of life i want to live,and he cant seem to understand that.

A few weeks ago, I met someone online who I really connected with. The trouble is, he’s from the UK and I’m from the US. We’re also really different people, in terms of choices and values– I work very hard in school and get good grades; he dropped out at 16, smokes weed (though he is trying to quit for me) and works at a bus company. (He’s now 18.) He’s a really sweet guy, seems really loyal, and we both like each other a lot.

I’m sure of his identity, we’ve chatted a lot on webcam and he definitely has good intentions, has been very respectful, and has never asked me for pictures or any favors like that. He says he’ll come visit me next June, when he’s saved up enough money.

He wants me to go to university in the UK. He says he can’t move here because he gets so homesick. I’m 16 and just starting to make my decisions about attending uni. My question is, is it worth it to move across an ocean for someone I met online weeks ago and have never spoken to face to face? I’m scared it won’t work out due to our differences.

My parents don’t know about this situation at all. They would be open to me attending uni in the UK but not completely enthusiastic.

Thanks very much for your answers!
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Yes, I agree that it is moving fast! But I do feel pressure to make decisions since I’m going to be applying to uni so soon and deadlines for universities in the UK are only in a year. That means I’ll have to start thinking about the best courses to take based on where I want to go…. so I do feel like I need to decide quickly.

(Yes, I know, I probably shouldn’t worry so much about grades and stuff!)
Thanks for the answers! KKK, I appreciate the humor

I really apreciate you all who would spend ur time on reading all of my question…

So, I will try to make it as short as I can :

Its of course a love issue….
I met this guy on internet, 6 years ago.
We were just friends for a year, and after almost every day or at least 3 times in a week chat and phone calls, etc etc he asked me to be his girfriend
I was 14 then, Im 20 now
So, after one year of friendship, we started to date, online yes, but it was our idea to meet for real after we I finish highschool and he finishes his studies ( he is 5 years older then me ).
I dont believe people very easy, and no matter of my age at that early time of our relationship, I learned before that, that internet is tricky stuff, and I met some ppl who very soon dissapointed me, my point is that I was aware that it can usually all end up like just fun chat, and nothing more…
But coz I spent the whole year chatting with this guy, like friends, I had oportunity to really get to know him…I even learning his language!!! at first we comunicated by drawing the meaning of words on – Doodle Yahoo lol Sometimes I didnt understand him at all, and his english was weak, but by time, he learned english and little bit of my mother language, I learned his language… we cam chatted only couple of times, and shared few photos, so I almost dont even know how he exactly looks like, but it really wasnt important. We enjoyed talking to eachother!!! We did and talked bout crazy things, interesting things, our worlds were spreading, I learned the way he looks at the world, he learned my way of seeing things…It was beautifull, creative, always different, intense…almost spiritual.
Then some bad things started to happen in his life, then in mine, and in some situations we were there ( online) for eachother, sometimes not
It passed 5 years… we passed all difficulties, jealosy, sadness ….. and we were planning to meet this year…
But something happened. He started to work…it takes him like 15 hours ……. day by day, now for almost more then 9 months, we dont talk
I tried to call him, write to him etc etc
He said that he is feeling terrible to tell me that he has time for nothing….no friends, no freetime, no nothing
Coz he wants to fullfill his dreams of becoming important, and gain material stuff, gain enough money to be able to study abroad, and make some plans real …. for that he works overtime, and sometimes he looses his joy for living coz he thinks time is going too fast … and he isnt getting anything he is dreaming about (profesionaly). I was trying to understand, and made clear that I will be always here to support him…even if we dont chat for a month or 2, its all right….I support his wish for work, moneymaking etc etc
But then, just too much time passed. He never writes….or calls….replies my emails after 3 weeks or more, or never.
I was pretty sad so I called him once to tell him that if he wants us to end this, I will understand, or if we’re making a break, all right… but he said – no, how can u say that? i just need time to focus on my work…but everything between us is great
So i decided to give him the time.
Now its really like half a year without contact…it sounds crazy, i know….. im not like desperate locked in my room etc etc i go out, i hang out with guys etc, i slowly realize that this online relationship will maybe never come true, maybe we will never meet, and this means the end… many of guys here in my city are interested in me, i go out on dinner sometimes, but i cant start anything new untill I totaly break up this online thing.
Only, the problem is, I dont want to break this! I would wait even another year untill we meet… I would do anything for it to work out! I just dont see were the problem started. And he isnt giving me any signs of even being alive….
A month ago, I used facebook to find out more bout him
He is acting very strange. He has only few friends, and the rest are models, movie stars, and other time of girls who he is adding, checking their photos, and writing quite rude commens on it, he sounds like some maniac…… im sorry to say that
he adds even some ugly girls, and writes commens on their photos, its discusting

I just dont understand anything!
I donno what to do

If any of u has more experience, and knows what would be the best for me to do, please give me an advice

thanx in advance!
sorry for spelling mistakes…

We met online a couple of months ago, told him i wasnt available but told him will help him find a GF, started talkin a lot ever since (he’s from the UK), and now we got this weird connection going on between us, but the thing is.. We are SO different!I wanna know how you feel about it, and if this kind of relationships actually work or not, coz he’s coming next month for a visit..

I got a BSc in Electronics Engineering, planning on getting an MBA in the near future … He hardly passed high school.
I work in the field of media and e-marketing … he works for the army.
I am a career-oriented woman, planning one day on running my own business or becoming an executive in a big company… he is an enlisted paramedic for the army.
I come from a highly educted family, parents both had their successful careers before retirement, sent us to pivate schools and private universities, got me and my siblings cars on our 20th bdays… He’s an ex convict, divorced, body full of tattoos & still gets wasted EVERY saturday at the age of 33!
I am 5’10 tall … he’s 5’6
I was brought up on catholic beliefs … he had his first child outside the wedlock, HE was born outside wedlock!

Ok, so those are all the differences.

On the other hand, we spend A LOT of time talkin to each other, we can talk practically about ANYTHING, he’s good hearted, been thru a lot, he’s really sensitive and appreciates little things in life, he’s a good listener, believes that love has no boundaries and all that romantic stuff. He loves his kids so much and I find that a very attractive attribute.

I want to hear from married couples who have been married for a long time if these differences actually affect a marriage, I have dated “good-on-paper” guys before, but it’s been a while since I found this kind of connection with someone.

Also, I want to hear from parents, will you support your daughter if she decided she wanted to be with a guy like that? Different cultural/educational/socio-economic/religious background?

I know talkin about getting in a relationship is too soon bcoz we have never met, but he will be here next month to see the possibility of us being together, he made it clear that he wants to get married eventually, and he has mentioned on several times that he has strong feelings for me.
CatNip, my parents are “highly-educated”, I was just born lucky, to smart hard working parents.
And I know am not being played like a fiddle, but again, this is NOT my question the questions is would these things really matter in a relationship?
I am just brainstorming
We do have a lot of things in common. We talk about books, music, politics and religion … A LOT actually … he didn’t go to college but that doesn’t mean he’s a lazy uneducated and a bum. Plus, we share the same ethics, being in the army and having a lot of his friends passing away is making him more religious by time, I am not super religious myself, neither is he, and he has mentioned several times that this is the way he is raising his current children, and the future ones.
haha cyclist, some ppl just like to “date smart” and plan ahead, lol