We met online a couple of months ago, told him i wasnt available but told him will help him find a GF, started talkin a lot ever since (he’s from the UK), and now we got this weird connection going on between us, but the thing is.. We are SO different!I wanna know how you feel about it, and if this kind of relationships actually work or not, coz he’s coming next month for a visit..
I got a BSc in Electronics Engineering, planning on getting an MBA in the near future … He hardly passed high school.
I work in the field of media and e-marketing … he works for the army.
I am a career-oriented woman, planning one day on running my own business or becoming an executive in a big company… he is an enlisted paramedic for the army.
I come from a highly educted family, parents both had their successful careers before retirement, sent us to pivate schools and private universities, got me and my siblings cars on our 20th bdays… He’s an ex convict, divorced, body full of tattoos & still gets wasted EVERY saturday at the age of 33!
I am 5’10 tall … he’s 5’6
I was brought up on catholic beliefs … he had his first child outside the wedlock, HE was born outside wedlock!
Ok, so those are all the differences.
On the other hand, we spend A LOT of time talkin to each other, we can talk practically about ANYTHING, he’s good hearted, been thru a lot, he’s really sensitive and appreciates little things in life, he’s a good listener, believes that love has no boundaries and all that romantic stuff. He loves his kids so much and I find that a very attractive attribute.
I want to hear from married couples who have been married for a long time if these differences actually affect a marriage, I have dated “good-on-paper” guys before, but it’s been a while since I found this kind of connection with someone.
Also, I want to hear from parents, will you support your daughter if she decided she wanted to be with a guy like that? Different cultural/educational/socio-economic/religious background?
I know talkin about getting in a relationship is too soon bcoz we have never met, but he will be here next month to see the possibility of us being together, he made it clear that he wants to get married eventually, and he has mentioned on several times that he has strong feelings for me.
CatNip, my parents are “highly-educated”, I was just born lucky, to smart hard working parents.
And I know am not being played like a fiddle, but again, this is NOT my question
the questions is would these things really matter in a relationship?
I am just brainstorming 
We do have a lot of things in common. We talk about books, music, politics and religion … A LOT actually … he didn’t go to college but that doesn’t mean he’s a lazy uneducated and a bum. Plus, we share the same ethics, being in the army and having a lot of his friends passing away is making him more religious by time, I am not super religious myself, neither is he, and he has mentioned several times that this is the way he is raising his current children, and the future ones.
haha cyclist, some ppl just like to “date smart” and plan ahead, lol